Marriage Proposal Reminiscence

It all began at 6:50 PM on 16^th Jan, 2009, Friday. I had packed up to leave from office to home. My Colleague (now my Husband) asked me if I’ll join him for a cup of coffee, just thought for a moment and I agreed. We went in his car to a Restaurant close by to office, called Amruth.

The coffee tasted really good at Amruth, miss it nowL. We spoke some official things while having coffee. We left from there by 7:30 PM and moved towards his car, I realized that he had something to say! When we reached his Car, he proposed “would you bid for a relationship with me”!!! At that moment, I was speechless and couldn’t say anything. May be, in my sub-conscious mind, I had expected this proposal from himJ. He dropped me back to office and said I can take time and reply him.

I couldn’t ride my first love (my Scooty Pep+, I called it my first love, till I got married!). I reached home and wanted to speak with my Mom about this, but didn’t know from where to start and how to tell her! I’m not as courageous as him. He just took a second to propose!

I sent a message to him saying that we need to talk about this and decided to have a chat session on 17^th Jan, 2009 Saturday 11:00 AM in the morning.

All set for the chat session, we had few questions and clarifications and I concluded saying that I’ll talk with my Mom and let him know. This day, my Aunt(Dad's Sister) came home and by then, I had told my mother about this proposal as the groom hunt was happening full-fledged at our home. Reason all our family members and relatives wanted me to be married in the same year of my father’s demiseL. My Mom asked me to talk to my Aunt on the way to One more Aunt's place. I didn’t have the courage to talk to my Aunt either. How would a girl talk about her own marriage proposal, phew!

Even at my one more Aunt's place, I tried hard to speak about this proposal, but was not comfortableL. My Aunt and I left from my One more Aunt’s place and took respective buses to our destinations.

From Majestic bus stand to J.P.Nagar, bus route # 2, me and my would-be-Husband exchanged messages, after few messages, he said that he’s not comfortable texting and asked if he can call me. I was almost close to my home, I said ok and he called me. He asked me if I can come to his home tomorrow!!! 2^nd day of the proposal, nothing decided at our home and he called me home. I had no reply to him and asked him to talk to my Mother and gave the phone to her. He was shocked to hear her as both my Mom and I sound the same over phone! My Mother told him that she’ll talk to elders at home and let him know. My Mother called up my Aunt and she in turn spoke to few other key family members and I got the permission to go to his home. Should I say, my first date was along with his family members, ha-haJ? We both decided to go to temple first and then to his home.

18^th January 2009, Sunday 8:45 AM, my Husband was waiting for me at the Indira Gandhi Circle; a place close to our home and from there went to Ragigudda Sri Anjaneya Temple. After Darshan, we sat in the corridor of the Temple and spoke for few hoursJ. Then, by 10:45 we left from Temple to his home, I was nervous, going alone to his home without elders with me! It was obvious for me to be nervous! As soon as I entered my Would-Be-Husband’s home, I was shocked! He had not told anything at home and 18^th Jan being his Parents (my In-Laws) Marriage Anniversary. His Brother’s family was also home. He introduced me as his would-be-wife, all were shocked, surprised and in tears, YES; IN TEARS OF JOY! My Man had been very adamant not to get married.

They were all very happy and I was flooded with questions from all sides. Must say this, I was shivering sitting in the tip of the sofa; my Husband came and sat next beside to comfort me. I introduced myself and told them that I’m an Iyengar. It would be Iyengar-Iyer collaboration ;). I have tears even after two years, when my Mother-In-Law held my hand tight and kept weeping in joy J. I didn't know how I should be responding to this. My Father-In-Law asked my Husband if he’s telling that he wants to marry me or if we are already married! That was another shock to me. It’s brunch at their place and all had done with their brunch. My husband told his family that our family also has to see him and it’s our Parents to decide about what next. This was a thrilling first date with family members.

My poor Husband had not eaten anything as I had told him that I don’t eat anything before going to Temple. We both from his home, went to Adiga’s Restaurant, had Idly Vada and coffeeJ.

From the Restaurant, went to my Aunt’s place. She was very happy after seeing him and wanted his horoscope to check if it matches with mine, though it was just a formality.

All went very smooth, both or our Families were very happy. We got engaged on March 1^st 2009 and Married on 22^nd May 2009.

I’m proud to be a part of this wonderful family! Thank you God for all thisJ

Marriage Proposal over a cup of CoffeeJJJ